Do you feel lost in life? Sometimes there is a feeling that creeps in. A sense of deep dissatisfaction with the way things are. It’s ok to be stuck at times; stuckness is part of life. It can be difficult to know what to do. Self-awareness is a good starting point. Counselling can facilitate the development of self-awareness.
That’s where I can come in. My name is Ben. I am a counsellor-coach based in London and online. I work with people who might be experiencing anxiety, depression, identity issues, lacking meaning and purpose, life transitions, low self-esteem, relationship problems, stress, work-life balance – among other challenges. I aim to support people to change and make choices. For example, it’s positive that you are considering seeking support which in turn can be a step towards taking control of your situation.
Integrative counselling with Ben
My starting point is always you. What do you want from life? Core to my approach is building a strong therapeutic relationship.
Working in an integrative way means I combine different tools and techniques from different approaches. It gives me greater flexibility to adapt my approach to meet your preferences and needs. Both ‘being’ and ‘doing’ are important in therapy. For example, people need different things at different points. Someone who has a clear expressed goal for therapy might benefit from a more proactive approach whereas someone who has an emerging awareness may want to use the space to explore their feelings and desires.
I am grounded in person-centred and existential theory. In my work, I try to balance two crucial elements: 1) existence and 2) acceptance. I acknowledge confronting reality can be difficult when it’s painful; I try to create a safe space to help you think things through and discover your own answers. Pain is transformed when it is accepted.
I believe talking offers this opportunity. It can help make sense of things and to put things into perspective. It is also a way of rediscovering yourself. Ask yourself, what do you need to relearn? (A lot of learning is unlearning). That said, the trouble with talking is that can you help you feel better. But you don’t necessarily get better. Self-awareness in of itself is sometimes not enough. You have to back it up with action. That’s where my coaching training can come in. Turning self-awareness into action. Remember, therapy is not a substitute for life, it’s a dress rehearsal for it!
In all this, you set the pace. You are responsible for the content, and I am responsible for managing the process. I’ve be guided by whatever you bring to the sessions.
Qualifications and trainings
- Member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy)
- Post Graduate Diploma in Integrative Counselling and Coaching
- Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Studies
- Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Skills
I recognise choosing a counsellor is a big decision. Like buying a pair of new shoes, it is prudent to try on a few different pairs. For this reason, I offer a free initial 20 minutes telephone consultation. Hopefully it will give you more a sense of me and how I work, and we can discuss what you want to gain from therapy.
In all this, it is important to make a choice that is right for you, and I will support you whatever it is. Thereafter, if you are interested in my approach, I suggest we meet for a first session of 50 minutes for which I charge my usual fee (£60).